Entries by Helena

LETTING GO

This year has been a profound year for me therapeutically speaking. Less than 6 months ago I finally understood why I had responded to life the way I had always done. Why I had fallen down the rabbit hole of depression that took me to the verge of suicide but also what helped me to survive it and make me the person I am today.

Yes, 2019 has been a year of discovery and I’m still processing it all, which is of no surprise after a build up of decades.

In short it stems from an unavoidable necessity to trust, violation and despite the violation, then desertion.

Just over 2 weeks ago, the freediving world lost a very special person to a non water related accident…

GRATITUDE FROM ANOTHER ANGLE

Aged 11 I went to boarding school.  I wanted to go.  I’d seen my brother and sister go off and I wanted in on this amazing adventure.

For 3 days it was and then the crushing reality of homesickness started to rip me apart.

It was the first time in my life…

RESILIENCE – PART II

6 months ago I wrote a post about resilience, the mental muscle that we build up unconsciously and consciously throughout life and that the more more we strengthen it, the more benefit it has to us.

There is so much more to resilience than I originally thought…

May was not a fun month for me.

TURNING 45

Today I turn 45.  Yes, I know I’ve been talking about being 29 for quite a few years now but today I actually turn 45 and with all the preconceived notions that we have in the western world.

There are the usual “adulting” questions that run through my mind:  What am I doing with my life?

SURFEARS 3.0 – REVIEW

I’ve been back in the water for a few weeks now and have been trying out the new SurfEars 3.0.

Before I go any further, if you don’t already know, they sponsor me. However even if they weren’t generous enough to do this, I would still be using their product as they have revolutionised my water life…

DIVING INTO TRUST

Everyone suffers at least one bad betrayal in their lifetime. It’s what unites us. The trick is not to let it destroy your trust in others when that happens. Don’t let them take that from you. Sherrilyn Kenyon

I have recently learned the extent of my trust issues, where they stemmed from and how I have inadvertently spent all…

GROWING PAINS

The start of 2019 has seen the biggest mental growth spurt of my life and could well be, the most influential weeks of the rest of my life.

I set out to do a comedy course, not because I think I’m funny or fancy doing stand-up (because believe me right now I really don’t,) but to benefit my public speaking. I hoped it would help me to…

MAKING MAGIC IN YOUR COMFORT ZONE

Anyone who has ever heard the phrase “comfort zone” has almost certainly heard the old adage that the magic happens on the edge of it or outside it.

I propose that the magic happens as a result of enlarging your comfort zone and is mostly revealed once you have returned to the safety…

JUST BEFORE YOU BRING IN THE NEW…

There is always a desire to celebrate the good stuff and brush off the crap of the preceding year, hoping that the next 12 months will be better. But we could be missing out on a lot of positivity by doing this.

It is very easy to write off bad experiences by not accepting what has actually happened or…